Setting: Curbside at SFO (San Francisco International Airport).
Time of day: Early afternoon on a Friday; prime time for high-roller weekend travellers.
Characters: The self, the beloved, the bairn. Also: bystanders in line for curbside check-in.
Motivation: Transfer all the paraphernalia out of the vehicle and into some kind of condition which the beloved can shepherd whilst the self skedaddles the vehicle over to long-term parking for the duration of a long weekend in L.A. to visit friends & family. We are close to on time, but cannot afford much in the way of delay.
Relevant backstory: The first time we traveled by airplane — to visit this same berg on the occasion of a friend’s surprise 40th birthday party — we were rookie parents, raggedy with the stress and sorrow of my nephew’s cancer battle. We had precious little experience navigating the wide world with our three-month-old lil’ monkey, and in the airport we felt phenomenally on display as The Lesbian Family. Which, I believe, we were (both a lesbian family and on display). At the security gate we were an old-school slapstick comedy duo, fumbling every object we touched, tangling not just each other, but parts of the security team up in the retracting baby stroller as we feebly attempted to compact it and ram it into the X-ray machine. We did everything this side of placing the infant child on the conveyer belt.
We might have chuckled at all this, except that all the while we were being glared at by some forty to sixty irritated, increasingly late fellow travelers (and, alas, I do not mean “fellow traveler” in the kindly sense of the word; merely in the descriptive sense). Okay, not all forty to sixty of them glared. Just ten or fifteen glared; twenty or thirty of them simply stared. Let us just say it is hard enough being a Hallmark card nuclear family at the security gate of an airport, all physically attractive, white, well-accoutremented, and familiar with the process of shepherding both brood and matériel through the security spanking line. The rest of us will be forgiven if we get a little touchy at the umpteenth long look. Suffice to say that air travel, now with two bairn, felt like a daunting undertaking.
Little pleasure: Goes a little something like this. Upon pulling up to the curb, the beloved and I bolt out of the vehicle and minister to it with the speed and efficiency of a NASCAR pit crew.
- • bag #1: removed and stacked neatly along curb!
- • bag #2: ditto!
- • gorgeous adorable totally well-behaved toddler: plucked from car seat and stacked alongside bags! (note: she is informed, lovingly, to sit tight and not move, and god love her she complies, people! a toddler complies! at the airport!)
- • kid car seat: effortlessly removed and stacked alongside adorable toddler! no parts tangled up hopelessly in the seatbelt this time! nosirree!
- • gorgeous adorable totally sleeping infant: lifted, intact inside baby seat, and parked alongside other matériel! remains sleeping! no crying or snorting! nosirree!
- • baby seat base: miraculously and gracefully unhooked from car, no snags, no cursing under the breath! parked alongside placidly sleeping babe!
and finally,
- • totally boss, multi-use, it-does-everything-shy-of-fixing-you-a-latte stroller, removed from the back of the vehicle in its flattened state, and DEPLOYED EFFORTLESSLY on the curb, right in front of a Highly Conventional heterosexual couple who look to hail from one the swanker of the metropolitan area’s suburbs (him: navy blue sport jacket over polo shirt, fancy watch, etc.; her: foundation make-up and suspiciously blonde hair, bauble-ey rings, regulation length & color fingernails, etc.). They appear to be, on the one hand, no strangers to air travel, and on the other, unaccustomed to seeing Lesbians close-up & personal. Especially in this full-blown, familial state.
As we pulled up, I imagined that we would be providing those waiting in the curbside check-in line with some kind of a diversion, what with waiting in line being such a dull undertaking. And as we decant the car, I get that sense that we are, indeed, being watched. When I get to the point of springing the boss stroller into position, I can’t help but notice that the female half of the haute suburban hetero couple is visibly amazed. It is an impressive rig. As a life-long emissary for the Lesbian Nation, I see an opening. (Only a really bad day will keep me from making yet another diplomatic inroad when the opportunity avails itself.)
I drop my sunglasses down my nose and lean over to her. “Pretty spiffy stroller, eh?”
“Y- y- yeah,” she sputters. I can’t tell whether the sputtering is due to breathlessness over the stroller (which would be understandable), or my debonair self (I tend to have that effect on the ladies), or simply the shock of being addressed by a woman whom, moments earlier, she thought was a man cursed with a slightly womanish-looking fanny. Perhaps all of the above.
“Look, you can even spin it like it’s Ginger Rogers!” I commence to cantilever over the stroller and give it a Fred Astaire whirl, and it spins obediently. I resist the urge to squat down and point out more of its myriad convenient features. My first job, at sixteen, was as a clerk in a backpacking store, and I have never lost the love of well-designed gear. Nor, does it seem, have I shaken the impulse to point out sundry design features to interested onlookers. But we are in a hurry.
The haute suburban woman is smiling slightly, amazed either at the stroller’s capacity to do a 360-degree turn on a dime, or at my willingness to demonstrate it. Or at the beauty of our children. Perhaps they’ve been talking about having kids soon. Perhaps they want to, and haven’t been able to thus far. Perhaps all of the above. You don’t know about people. I only glanced at her for a moment or two, but I thought I detected a hint of longing as she eyed the kids.
I flash a smile and pop my eyebrows up and down in a wordless goodbye, and then return to the NASCAR pit crew speed-decanting task. I ask the lil’ monkey whether I can put her in her “sneaky little fort,” which is what we call her lower berth in the stroller. She consents, dreamily proving that in a clutch, she is most certainly her Baba’s daughter.
I park the still-sleeping infant dauphin into his upper berth on the stroller, and plug the diaper bag and the beloved’s purse in their available spots on the rig. The beloved appears at my side, I plant a smooch on her beautiful face, and we corroborate our rendezvous at the gate.
As I steer away from the curb toward the long-term parking lot, I think to myself, “Happy travels to all, and to all a good flight!”
What a cute story!
Sounds like you handled everything with aplomb the way you did it, but let me tell you, our life changed when we discovered that you can check in your bags *at* the long-term parking lot at SFO. They charge for it (but skycaps do now, too, right?), and you’d still have to carry the baby and baby stuff in the bus, and not everyone’s into that, but it’s a nice service if you’re cool with that.
Oh, and Happy Mothers’ Day to you!
Many thanks! And, as to the parking lot check-in: Dude! No way! We are so doing that the next time. We are definitely cool with that. Since we are not cool with the stress of it all. Covered wagons and sweaty horses had to be more enjoyable.
As a fellow gear-head, I want to see a picture of (or link to external picture of ) this stroller and I don’t even have kids.
I love that in the midst of your nascar-like efficiency, you still took a moment to charm the straight woman.
We are lucky to have such a diplomat in our ranks! We thank you for your community service…
Gear-head sister! Here’s the phil&teds site. Follow the link to products and from there to buggies; ours is the double jobbie that fits two kids (without hogging up every square inch of sidewalk). We have inherited so much free stuff from older siblings & friends w/ kids that we shelled out for this expensive item with reckless impunity and not a jot of regret!
Thank you, Liza and Vikki. You know, nothing tempts like a straight woman with an open mind. Diplomacy, that is.
I love your writing!
Thanks! Life’s rich pageant makes for endless source material, sister.
Wait. Waitwaitwaitwaitwait. Two adults and a TODDLER and an INFANT and all you had was 2 bags, a diaper bag, and a purse?! Did I get that right? I am so very, very impressed.
I’ve been reading your blog for a long time and finally registered to write my first sappy comment: I love each word you write, and your photos are priceless. I hope you have a great trip.
Okay, well, Trista, I did have a backpack on. So the grand total has to include one more item.
And pachysandra: many many thanks. I hastily type these words at the end of a lovely weekend. I am a big sap supporter, whether it comes from trees or people. 🙂
Polly, I agree with Liza! I love the description of your debonair self, whom I do love so dearly, doing a Ginger Rogers spin on your fancy stroller to charm Miz Fingernails. Big smoochies, Sybil
XXOO back, honey ;]
Thank heavens I didn’t plow over her foot, which was probably Prada-shod. It coulda happened. The fates were just with us that afternoon.